As a reminder for myself

July 04, 2012..do remind yourself about what happened today. Think twice before help others, being too nice will hurt yourself. People take granted on your kindness. Stop being nice to them, they don't deserve it! X tolong susah..tolong lg susah! Persetan!
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Y ou’ve heard the saying before – nice guys finish last. It more or less applies to women too. While I believe in being a nice person, I am now beginning to also realize that in some instances, being nice gets you nowhere and in fact, you really do finish last.
Not that I’m saying there is anything wrong with being a nice person, of course there isn’t. Heck, I fancy myself a nice person too. But right now, I’m modifying my way of thinking to only be a genuinely nice person to those who really deserve it.
In some instances – for example in the working world and among certain types friends – being too nice might just prove to be your downfall, and this especially applies to the working world.
Why? Here’s a couple of reasons why I now believe that being too nice a person could result in fact in your finishing last:

• People Take Advantage Of You- If people come to view you as the nice person, the one who always says yes, the one who is always willing to help, the one who will cover up for them, they will tend to take advantage of that and expect you to help them out all the time. And you on the other hand, which just get more bitter and resentful about it over time.

• People Take You For Granted- When you’re too nice, people take you for granted. They assume that you don’t mind doing things, and they tend to forget that you have needs of your own as well.

• You Become A Pushover – Yes, the nice person ends up being a pushover. Because the nice person in general feels bad or guilty about saying no or hurting people’s feelings, they tend to say yes all the time and believe me, people will take advantage of that. There are times when you just have to be firm and say no.

• You Will Get Left Behind - If you always put the needs of others ahead of yourself, pretty soon you WILL get left behind because people will tend to forget about you. The nice ones are the ones that always get overlooked because people will generally assume that you are OK with everything.

While I’m not saying that you should be a horrible person just to get ahead in certain aspects of life, I’m also at the same time saying don’t be too nice of a person.
Only be nice when the time calls for it, or when the person genuinely deserves it. Why would you be nice to others who will take advantage of your niceness?
Keeping a balance is the best thing you can do. Be nice, but don’t be too nice to a point that you become a pushover.
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